When it comes to self-control, most people think it’s just about willpower — pushing yourself to resist temptation. But what if the real path to self-control isn’t found in taking more control, but in giving it up?
In this final message of the Truth Files series, we unpack one of the most difficult fruits of the Spirit to cultivate — self-control. It’s not just about saying “no” to bad habits. It’s about letting the Holy Spirit produce something in you that you could never produce on your own. Through the process, you’ll see how God’s strength — not yours — is the key to breaking free from cycles of defeat and self-destruction.
This message doesn’t just offer personal freedom. It calls us to live differently in a broken world that desperately needs to see the power of self-control in action. When we live with self-control, it strengthens our relationships, protects our integrity, and shows others the kind of life God offers to all of us.
Watch the full message to see how surrendering control leads to the greatest freedom of all.
If you missed the live service or want to reflect further, you can watch the full message above anytime after. We’ve also included discussion questions to dig deeper into the message and a handout with fill-ins to guide your reflection. You can find the handout by clicking the “Download” button above. Whether you watch this on your own or share it with your small group, we hope this message encourages you.
Discussion Questions
- What does self-control mean to you personally, and how have you experienced its impact in your life?
- Proverbs 25:28 compares a person without self-control to a defenseless city. What areas in your life feel like they need stronger “walls” of self-control?
- Why do you think self-control is so difficult to practice consistently?
- How does understanding that self-control is a fruit of the Spirit change the way we approach it?
- 2 Peter 1:5-7 describes self-control as part of a growth process that leads to love. How does this progression challenge or encourage you?
- What are some practical ways you can rely on God’s strength rather than your own when struggling with self-control?
- Who are the “friends” in your life that you can gather to support and encourage you in areas where you lack self-control?
- What does it look like to “give it all up” and let the Holy Spirit guide your choices and actions?
- Can you share a time when surrendering to God’s power helped you overcome a struggle with self-control?
- How can growing in self-control positively impact the relationships and responsibilities in your life?
